It’s time to talk New Year’s Resolutions. After all it is December 31st, y’all! But…I’m not here to tell you how to make those organized resolutions and then offer you a fool proof solution for how not to break them. (Hint ~ it takes 21 days to form a habit and stick with it ~ just sayin!) I’m not hear to tell you how to make this your most organized year yet. (Hint ~ you can find tips about that in tomorrow’s post!) This New Year’s Eve my instincts about what I want to share with you in 2015 are different. Its time to look beyond my color coded closets and beautiful binders to make sure that the work we do here helps us all do more than we ever have before. Because its not about us.
Full disclosure folks ~ it’s hard to be humble when you are a person who likes to offer answers. All my life I’ve had an opinion about most anything and most of my life I’ve learned lessons, plenty of them the hard way, about when to offer those opinions or better yet, when to keep them to myself. Realizing not everyone needs to know what you are thinking or hear what you have to say comes with time. I have to be gentle with myself for those times when I might have made a different choice. And be grateful to for the opportunity to do better in the future.
And then there is motherhood. No greater gift, no greater challenge, and most definitely the most humbling experience any woman whose good with an answer or two could ever undertake. And 2014 made sure that motherhood was my primary focus, often against my professional heart’s desire. Yes we are always a mother first, but when you are a woman with an answer or two you are always tweaking to get the most out of life. And when it comes to juggling work and home, 2014 was a year that reminded me how much we have to bend, how much we have to shoulder, and how sometimes we have to be well with our soul when we walk through seasons that remind us clearly we can’t do it all. Sorry. There are seasons where this is so true you can taste it in every tear. And it’s okay.
With a life event or commitment at home for basically every single professional event I would have chosen to attend to collaborate with a brand, speak if chosen, network with colleagues and friends, and build my new business pipeline, I was grounded. Frankly I felt stuck at home, watching opportunity pass me by. This is an industry built on online connectivity and in real life gatherings where being present 365 24/7 is what make you “valuable” as you deliver rock star content that engages readers and creates brand buzz on every platform you can.
And I was home.
So I had to be kind as I watched that perceived success pass me by. I had to be brave as I believed I would reach my goals in spite of an endless plan b. I had to be humble as I remembered yet again that I am so completely not in control. For a woman with an answer or two these are the hardest seasons at the most important times. And so I listened.
I heard the gentle whisper of my inner voice reminding me that for all of my 15 years at GO MOM!, my best opportunities haven’t been the ones I’ve found but those that have found me. And by best I mean those that were so much more rewarding than I could have imagined, so much more impressive than I ever thought worthy, so much more incredible than I was confident I could master. My best experiences weren’t the ones I planned out for months in advance all on my own. Each of those experiences left no question in my heart that I am so completely not in control, that God has my career in His hands each and every day, and its my job to serve Him and be obedient even when I don’t understand. And to be still and listen. And in an industry full of noise, that’s a mighty call to action.
With a year behind me that has clearly been defined by being still and listening, its become clear that while I continue do all I can to help you get organized and manage your time (you knew I would!), I have a responsibility wait for His best pans for my work and do more when they are revealed.
In our chaotic, instant gratification, social media society, all around me I see women feeling they aren’t good enough thanks to trying to keep up with the social media Joneses and all those perfect pictures and updates of their perfect lives. I personally prefer updates from Holderness family. Perceived perfection is draining our souls. And that’s because while yes of course as mothers we need to take care of ourselves, feed our souls, fill our cups, workout, have date night, get our roots done ~ YES all of that! We can’t live our lives thinking “Its all about me.” Because oh my heart it so completely is not all about me…or you…or her even if she has really cute boots!
Its about serving without recognition. Its about love without expectation. Its about doing something for someone else even if we feel like we do that all day every day all year long. Its remembering that same advice you’ve been taught your entire life “Do unto others as you’d have them do unto you.”
Say hello to the #DeedADay movement. I wasn’t looking for it ~ it found me. It called to my heart to apply to participate the second I read about the campaign. It was no question I’d say yes if I was picked. And no, it’s not even a paid opportunity outside of receiving the bracelet to review. This isn’t about money. It’s about heart.
As we get ready to welcome a New Year full of hope and promise, full of fresh starts God so gracefully gives me with every sunrise, I have one New Year’s Resolution ~ to serve. Because when I serve, I am humbled by His grace and I know I’m right where I am supposed to be. Surprising for a strong willed soul like me but as true as the day is long. And the #DeedADay movement will play a huge role in my success in keeping the resolution because it is based on the concept that for 100 days as I serve others with small acts of kindness, I will wear my 100 Good Deeds Bracelet to remind me to take action and track my days one precious bead at a time.
And I’d love for you to join me.
Imagine if we all did a good deed a day, what a better place the world would be. Sounds grandiose but how how incredibly simple and easy this truly is Mom! Together we can change the world, no really we can and I know that you totally know this is true because you tell your kids this all the time. I know you do, because I do and every other Mom at the playground or ball field does too! And what better medium to make this bold but humble statement than fashion?
The 100 Good Deeds Bracelet gives us 100 chances to be grateful. Each time you do a good deed, one that is anonymous and unexpected, move the ring on the bracelet closer to the button. The bracelets are designed by Mary Fisher, author, artists and AIDS advocate. And I’ll be honest, I love that The 100 Good Deeds bracelet is both a fashion statement and a cause. No excuses, they look fabulous! But what I love most about them is they are the true embodiment of the the saying “She wears her heart on her sleeve.” I’ve heard this my entire life and no bracelet I’ve worn to symbolize it has ever made me more proud than this one.
Bracelets are made by vulnerable women who’ve been trained for this work in Uganda, India, Indonesia, Zambia, South Africa, Rwanda, IniInand Haiti. This project gives a women a way to support their families through earnings, while empowering them to also contribute to good deeds around the world. Proceeds from 1GD bracelets are reinvested in the program to provide more women and girls with more training in more countries.
What if you joined me? What if you decided that for the first 100 days of the next 365 you committed your heart to doing 100 Good Deeds? They don’t have be huge, sweeping gestures. Start small with things like holding the door for that Mom struggling with a crying baby even though you yourself are late for an appointment or meeting. It can be paying for the drive thru order behind you. It can be sharing your smile and a kind hello. Or it can be stopping the moment you see a social media request for prayer and praying that very moment for God’s presence and peace in whatever that situation may be.
Its so simple to join me and start your 2015 off with #DeedADay front and center. Simply share one of these images on Facebook (and TAG), Instagram, Twitter or Pinterest using hashtag #DeedADay and wherever you are social, you’ll have made an impact with every post. Follow 100 Good Deeds on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Pinterest. And if like me, you do well with a colorful visual reminder (See it all ties back to color coding in the end!) buy the bracelet. I’ve already bought 2 ~ just in case I need them to match what I’m wearing and all. Again with the color coding! I’m sorry, its just who I am. And I am here to serve and hope I have inspired you to participate too.
Thanks so much for stopping by ~ see you next year!
Disclosure: I was gifted this 100 Good Deeds bracelet to review and share with my readers. However, all thoughts and opinions expressed herein are my own.